I'm Baaaaack! Didga Miss Me?

Ok I know I haven't blogged in months.  I wish I could say it's because I was just so busy working out and keeping my house spotless.  Unfortunately, I just stopped blogging.  I could list all these excuses, but nobody wants to read about how many obstacles come my way.  I'm really just gonna tell you all the simple truth of it:  "Old habits die hard."  I haven't totally reverted back to my old ways but I took a few steps back.

Anyway, it's the first day of 2012 and there is no better time than now to get back to what I started.  I want to make my resolutions on here and I'm really gonna try to keep up with this blog at least once a week even if I have to do a quick vlog about whatever the weeks topic is.   I want to get back to using this blog as my accountability and I really do appreciate hearing from y'all.  I know I don't have a huge following, but to hear some people ask when am I gonna put up a blog means a lot to me.  You will see my blog by Saturday January 7, 2012.  I hope everyone and wonderful New Year and I will leave you with my New Year's Resolutions.

My Resolutions for 2012 in no particular order:
1.  Blog every week about at least one of these resolutions or something fun like a product review
2.  Stick to my cleaning schedule
3.  Find a way to earn extra money for savings
4.  Stick to my budget
5.  Exercise daily
6.  Don't let food have control over me! (Check out my weight loss blog for #5&6)
7.  Spend more time doing Bible study
8.  Being a better wife and mother

Things We Should Do For Love

I have been with my husband since I was just a teenager.  I know that we have both grown as people since we have been together nine years. I also know things with us are constantly changing. In the big picture I have only just begun my relationship with him; if we both live to be old and gray that is.  We could possibly be married another forty to sixty years depending on how long we live.  I have relatives that just celebrated there 70th wedding anniversary. Wow 70 years! I can't hardy imagine being alive long enough to be married 70 years.  Here are a couple bits of advice of things we should do for love.

Going by grandma's advice right now in this stage of my life is the hardest part of marriage. We have little kids, the economy is bad, and life is just stressful.  Plus I am just now becoming more aware of how my husband ticks and how to handle a situation to keep from having an argument.  We still do argue over little things but not as much as when we first got together.  I was young and I thought everything had to be MY way.  The older I get the more laid back I get.  I have learned to pick my battles and wait for an appropriate time to hash it out.  Fighting in the middle of Walmart just makes me look ignorant. Well I guess as a teenager I was ignorant about most things. Now I see people going at it in public and I just shake my head and Thank God that I realized how silly that is.  Also fighting in front of the kids is never a good idea.  We really try our best to keep disagreements between us and not let the kids in on the arguments.  It isn't always easy and sometimes I lose my cool, but at the end of the day our kids know that we love each other.  People should be more patient, with their partners. If you promise to be with someone the rest of your life, why make life miserable over leaving the toilet seat up or something else that really isn't a big deal.

Since I have  been married I have gained a ton of weight, I used to care a little bit about fashion and I wore makeup on a daily basis.  I guess you could say I had let myself go. I used to say, "I'm already married what does it matter what I look like?"   Recently I have been exercising a lot and trying to eat right.  I have started losing weight but I was doing it for myself for health reasons, but I got to thinking:  Why in the world would somebody be attracted to a slop.  My husband has never been negative about my weight, but I'm sure he wouldn't mind a bit for  me to be fit and trim. So after this revelation I think about him when I need some motivation.  Anyway, last Sunday after church I was thinking, "Why is he sitting beside me to watch TV?"  Then I realized I still was dressed nice and had on a ton of make-up.  Like every time I ware make-up and fix my hair nice he always gives me compliments and pays more attention to me.  So almost every day this week, even if I didn't really feel like it, I fixed my hair and make-up the same way I do on Sunday for church.  Well it worked out in my favor.  He was so much more attentive to me.  He did ask why I was wearing so much make-up lately. I told him it was for him and he grinned.  So maybe it took me a few years to figure it out, but my man really likes for me put myself  "together" for him.  He would never ask me to on his own. Maybe for fear of my wrath or maybe because he didn't even realize he wanted me to. Anyway, my point is if you know what your partner likes why not do it (with in reason of course)?  You are going to live with this person for the of your lives why not make each other happy. 

The Truth Is.......

I would like for people to think I have it all together.  I have well behaved children, a wonderful marriage, an awesome well paying job, lots of money in the retirement fund, and a nice house that is squeaky clean.  The truth is.....my kids are wild like yard apes sometimes, my husband gets on my nerves and I get on his, I don't have my ideal career not that I don't love what I do,   I am frugal but I have no money saved back for old age, and my house is a mess!   So on my other blog I am giving myself a challenge every week to help me lose weight.   I want to use this blog to become more accountable for everything else in my life. I will focus on one topic every week.  Maybe when I put all these things together I will be closer to the person I want to be.   Don't get me wrong I am a happy person and enjoy my life. I just want make my quality of life a little better. I know that I have been considered an adult for like nine years but I'm really just learning to what I want my life to be like ya know.  I guess what people say is true; you don't really know who you are until you're around 30.  

Another thing that has really helped me on my journey of change is prayer.  The days that I pray in the mornings for focus and strength I always have a better day.  I want to make that my goal for everyday to be closer to God.  I am thankful everyday for the joy that I have in my heart because of  Jesus. So if in some of my blogs it sounds like I am complaining about my life just remember that really am happy; I just in vision more for my family and myself and I'm blogging for a little motivation.  My blogging may be helpful or just entertaining to you too, but I'm probably not going to have any great tips for life that are working for me now. I just want you to come along for the ride.

This week I will be working on my home and my daily cleaning schedule and some decluttering/organization projects. I will try to post some before and after pics next Saturday.  Stay tuned........